Janet McNish (MBACP) Registered Counsellor & Micheal Fanstone responded to listeners’ concerns about Toxic Relationships LIVE on air. 20/10/2019. CLICK ARROW BELOW TO LISTEN:
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Vanesa Pizzuto will interview Janet McNish about Dating & Relationship Dilemmas live on air at Adventist Radio.
Please contact the show with your questions and comments. We will respond to you with tact and transparency from the presenter and psychotherapist.
This interview will include:
Deadly Love Myths!
How do you know if he/she is ready for a relationship?
How ready are YOU for a relationship?
How to get relationship ready!
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If you’d like more information on the above topics, please contact Janet McNish with your query without obligation.
THE PREMIER TONIGHT SHOW?
Host Michael Fanstone & Studio Counsellor Janet McNish
For 22 years Janet has been equipping men and women with tools to develop healthy relationships with themselves and others. She has worked effectively with individuals, couples, and groups. Janet and Michael responded to calls & messages LIVE.
SINGLENESS & DATING DILEMMAS ~ A grown-up conversation about
Where and how can I meet a partner?
They just want sex!!!
Online / Offline Dating
Are you really ready for a relationship?
Dating later in life
Janet McNish is available to deliver workshops to your Singles Ministry and panels. CONTACT JANET to discuss your group’s requirements.
Have you not had a date in years? Or are you tired of dating different men with the same poor results? Are you frightened of entering the dating minefield? Feeling frustrated by “waiting to be found”? Dreading attending another family event alone? Are you confused by men – yet want to marry one? Not sure if you even want to get married? Oh…that question…”WHY are you still single?” This workshop is for YOU!
Come to this practical three-hour workshop to improve your confidence in dating relationships.Where you will learn solutions to the following and more:
~How to apply the Bible to dating relationships
~Trust – boundaries – safety tips
~10 Red Flags in Relationships
~Ways to meet eligible men offline
~How to enjoy the process – yes, it’s possible!
This workshop will be delivered in an engaging, participative style with plenty of time for discussion and a handy takeaway toolkit. There will be a confidentiality agreement for attendees. Refreshments, handouts and a gift bag will be also be provided.
Special Springtime offer: Tickets £25 each Spaces are limited for this event.
Janet McNish & Maria Rodrigues
Valentine’s Day Tips for Single People
on The Woman to Woman Show
Valentine’s day can sometimes emphasise how single (some of us) really are, so how can we get through the season? Relationship Counsellor and Trainer Janet McNish shares 7 top tips for singles to benefit from during the month of love.
1. Be sociable
Find out about social events in the Christian singles scene. Contact the organisers for more specific details of their events, can you attend alone. How do they help people to mingle and make friends with the same and opposite gender? What demographics are likely to attend? You can tell a lot by the type of music and activities advertised in the publicity material. This would help you make an informed choice. When you do go, be open to making genuine friends with men and women. Show interest in others rather than interviewing prospective spouses. When you do this, you’re more likely to relax and enjoy the event, as you’ll reduce the pressure on yourself.
2. Never contact ex-partners Valentine’s week
Do not send text messages, emails, gifts or cards. No contact means just that. They could have moved on and it comes over as a little desperate if it’s not reciprocated. Don’t allow yourself to dwell on the if only. The ex is an ex for a reason. The Bible only allowed four weeks to grieve the loss of a spouse. Ouch!!! If you do have more grieving to do, postpone it if you can! Meanwhile, implement some of these ideas. Then grieve and move on.
3. Go on a non-date date
Find a non-valentine event you’d like to attend. They do exist. Music concerts, gigs, theatre or cinemas. Find also another single trusted friend or acquaintance of the opposite or same gender that you enjoy being with and go together on a non-romantic date. Remain positive and determined to enjoy the event and each other’s company. Choose not to focus on the red hearts floating around the place.
4. Don’t go shopping!
5. Go shopping!
Before Valentine’s-Day luxury goods and services have the best deals of the year apart from Christmas. So why not treat yourself to that luxury perfume or aftershave set you’ve had your eye on for ages. The one you wish that the love of your life would buy for you. Alternatively, wait until after V-Day, when sales drop by up to 70% on luxury chocolates and other Valentine’s paraphernalia.
6. So why are you still single?
When people pity or judge you, or ask you why are you still single, be careful not to be upset or angry in your response. Instead gently respond with something like Why not prepare a press statement in advance. Feel free to create something from the suggestions below. What other suggestions could you use?
Yes, I am very choosy! Why wouldn’t I be choosy about whom I invest my love?
I personally think it’s good to be particular about the person I am going to share my life with to share my spirit, soul and body with.
I am happy.
I am getting on with living and enjoying my life. Does this work for me?.
Thank you for your concern – How come it bothers you so much that I am not part of a couple?
What practical solutions do you have for me?
7. Take care of yourself
Talking about the love of your life. You are to love yourself as your neighbour. How well do you do this? How could you improve your treatment of yourself? Treat yourself with respect and value. Maintain good habits and routines. Exercise, eat well, pamper yourself, and spend time with trustworthy and positive people. Be careful of your focus. Our thoughts impact our emotions, which lead to actions with consequences. Negative thoughts can lead to negative actions. Positive thoughts lead to positive actions.
Live and Love
Do remember that Valentine’s Day is about love. Let’s allow ourselves to receive even more of the greatest love of all. Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends (John4:14)
The thief comes only in order to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have and enjoy life, and have it in abundance [to the full, till it overflows]. (John 10:10) It is still possible and essential to have abundant life as a single person. Someone who is genuinely enjoying his or her life is actually more attractive than someone who isn’t. Friends and potential suitors would want to be part of your life if it looks good.
You can listen to a related Premier Radio podcast here. https://janetmcnish.com/podcast-singleness-dating-premier-christian-radio-31012016/
Janet McNish PGDip (MBACP) Reg. has been counselling and training in London for 19 years. She is a regular on-air Studio Counsellor at Premier Christian Radio. She provides support and training around relationships and trauma recovery for individuals, groups and organisations. For more information, www.janetmcnish.com Follow me on Twitter @Janet_Mcnish
Michael Fanstone & Janet McNish discussed Singleness & dating – A Grown-Up Conversation on 31/01/2016 Janet responded LIVE ON AIR to callers with practical ideas regarding dating with dignity, trust after trauma, how to meet potential partners …
I am running a 3-hour interactive workshop with coaching around being single and developing healthy dating relationships. Spaces are limited to allow a more intimate setting and confidentiality. Also more time for discussion, exercises, optional Q&A session. I am also available to speak at your church or singles ministry.
Please email me to register your interest https://janetmcnish.com/contact-me
Sunday 2nd August 2015 at 10.00 pm ~ Midnight
Studio Counsellor ~Janet McNish ~ LIVE ON AIR
MW 1305, 1332, 1413 in London
Nationally on Freeview Channel 725 and D.A.B.
PREMIER TONIGHT with Michael Fanstone & Janet McNish. Please join the discussion on Abusive Relationships. We will respond to your calls & messages LIVE ON AIR. We aim to help and find practical solutions. To take part in this LIVE Phone-in. Call 0845 021 2121. Calls charged at the local rate.
- What is an abusive relationship?
- 6 types of abuse
- Men are victims too!
- Why doesn’t she / he leave?
- Abuse in the church!!!
- Safety Tips
- Insights for recovery and healing
- Helpful resources and contacts
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