Janet McNish (MBACP) Registered Counsellor & Micheal Fanstone responded to listeners’ concerns about Toxic Relationships LIVE on air. 20/10/2019. CLICK ARROW BELOW TO LISTEN:
Studio Counsellor ~Janet McNish ~ LIVE ON AIR
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PREMIER TONIGHT with Michael Fanstone & Janet McNish discuss Toxic Relationships.
Janet will respond to your calls & messages LIVE ON AIR. We aim to help and find practical solutions.
To take part call 0845 021 2121. Calls charged at the local rate. 10.00pm Midnight. LIVE Phone-in.
Did you know over two women per week in are killed by current or ex-partners, and that one in four women in the UK will experience domestic violence in their lifetime? (Women’s Aid)
Discussing issues such as:
What is a toxic relationship?
Men are victims too!
Why doesn’t she / he leave?
Toxicity in the church
What would YOU like us to discuss regarding this topic? Your confidentiality will be respected.
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Alternatively, you might prefer to send me a message. Your confidentiality will be respected and maintained. I will never lend, give or sell your contact details to anyone.
LONELINESS AND ISOLATION. Loneliness is no respecter of persons; you could be male or female, introvert or extrovert, young or elderly, married, single, successful in your career
What is loneliness? What is isolation? What is solitude?
Causes of loneliness? How loneliness impacts your health. Two types of Loneliness. How has loneliness affected you? How can you overcome loneliness and isolation? Listen to the show to obtain some effective tips and techniques to deal with loneliness.
PREMIER TONIGHT: Michael Fanstone & Studio Counsellor Janet McNish discussed the epidemic of Loneliness and Isolation Janet responded to your calls & messages LIVE ON AIR with understanding and some practical solutions.
Janet McNish has been counselling for 22 years and has managed 2 mental health projects and was clinical director of a multicultural counselling service with 20 counsellors. She is an engaging trainer and speaker and provides tailor-made services for leaders who use counselling skills in their work or ministry. Please contact Janet for information without obligation.
THE PREMIER TONIGHT SHOW?
Host Michael Fanstone & Studio Counsellor Janet McNish
For 22 years Janet has been equipping men and women with tools to develop healthy relationships with themselves and others. She has worked effectively with individuals, couples, and groups. Janet and Michael responded to calls & messages LIVE.
SINGLENESS & DATING DILEMMAS ~ A grown-up conversation about
Where and how can I meet a partner?
They just want sex!!!
Online / Offline Dating
Are you really ready for a relationship?
Dating later in life
Janet McNish is available to deliver workshops to your Singles Ministry and panels. CONTACT JANET to discuss your group’s requirements.
On Premier Tonight radio show Michael Fanstone & Janet McNish discussed Singleness & Dating dilemmas. They responded LIVE on air to callers with practical insights and solutions. Janet has been Counselling adults in relationships for 20 years. Broadcasted on Sunday 21 May 2017
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Previewed content from the upcoming Workshop: Knowing Me-Knowing You! Strategies for Effective Dating!
Details for the workshop see next post or paste link into your browser.
Have you not had a date in years? Or are you tired of dating different men with the same poor results? Are you frightened of entering the dating minefield? Feeling frustrated by “waiting to be found”? Dreading attending another family event alone? Are you confused by men – yet want to marry one? Not sure if you even want to get married? Oh…that question…”WHY are you still single?” This workshop is for YOU!
Come to this practical three-hour workshop to improve your confidence in dating relationships.Where you will learn solutions to the following and more:
~How to apply the Bible to dating relationships
~Trust – boundaries – safety tips
~10 Red Flags in Relationships
~Ways to meet eligible men offline
~How to enjoy the process – yes, it’s possible!
This workshop will be delivered in an engaging, participative style with plenty of time for discussion and a handy takeaway toolkit. There will be a confidentiality agreement for attendees. Refreshments, handouts and a gift bag will be also be provided.
Special Springtime offer: Tickets £25 each Spaces are limited for this event.
Janet and Patricia are joined by Holly who candidly shares her journey of being in a same-sex relationship and the conflict with her faith.
Holly describes how she overcame her struggle and is now in a place of peace.
Janet and Patricia talk about the pros and cons of online dating. Practical tips.
I have prayed for a spouse. Why doesn’t God just send someone?
What it means to be in a same-sex relationship for Christian.
On today’s Real Love Show I’m talking with Janet McNish, about some of the items in today’s news. With it being Human Trafficking Awareness Month I want to hear from Janet her thoughts on the issues discussed in my interview with Diane Robertson Martin Cbe. I will be asking what healing is needed for those exiting that life.
We will also be commenting on the Daniel Hortzclaw verdict. An Oklahoma judge sentenced former patrolman Daniel Holtzclaw to 263 years in prison Thursday and ordered the terms be served consecutively, meaning the former college football star will never again be free. Why was this not well publicised on mainstream news We discuss at 5 pm today.
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Do you long for love, yet fail to take decisive steps to make it happen? When you do decide to take action around dating and meeting people, are you easily sidetracked by other things that fill your life? If so, your busyness could be a cover for ambivalence.
Ambivalence is the state of having mixed feelings or ideas about something or someone, either consciously or unconsciously. Katy Perry in her song “Hot N Cold” wrote of ambivalence:
If you observed problems in your parental relationships that were not managed in healthy ways, or if you experienced any kind of abuse, neglect or significant loss in your childhood, these would have caused trust issues and confusion about your desires for relationship.
Susan Page author of If I Am So Wonderful, Why Am I Still Single? says;
There are 2 types of involuntary singles:
1.Those who are highly proactive and doing all they can and simply haven’t met a suitable person yet.
2.Those too busy or ambivalent who might be sabotaging their own efforts to form a loving relationship. On one hand they say, I want a relationship! but on the other they are consciously or on unconsciously reluctant.
If you scratch beneath the surface you may find a host of underlying fears and contradictory thoughts:
- Fear of rejection or being hurt
- Progressing in my career
- Fear of taking risks required for developing a relationship
- Wanting to keep my secrets to myself
- Fear of having to give up my great lifestyle as a single person
- Proving I am right, that the opposite sex is the problem
- Fear of losing my independence
Don’t get me wrong. Many people thrive on having busy, full and productive lives. In fact, relationship coaches and dating websites encourage this as one of the ways to attract the opposite sex to you. Comments like live such an interesting life that he/she would love to be part of it. But that life could become so busy that it doesn’t allow you time and space for pursuing dating relationships.
If any of this rings true for you, don’t be hard on yourself. Ambivalence is a natural part of life. Show grace to that part of yourself that is indecisive.
So how do we move forward?
1. The challenge is not to over-analyze how you feel or think about your ambivalence, but rather to reflect on and learn from the decisions that you have made after you have met someone in the past, and through the various stages of those relationships.
2. Pay attention to your ambivalence. Be honest with yourself even if it seems contradictory. Understand your ambivalence. It might not be about fear, but about your values. Wanting someone who will understand your vocation, expression of faith, or your need for independence is normal.
3. Notice how you feel about the efforts you have made to find a relationship. Could a slightly different approach or method be helpful, such as not focusing on looking for The One, but rather building genuine healthy friendships with the opposite sex and seeing where that leads?
4. Take small steps.
5. Seek support from an honest proactive friend. Or to overcome some difficult issues or unhelpful behaviour patterns in relationships, discuss with a qualified therapist.
So be ambivalent, but then decide that you are going to take action by moving forward in ways that will align with your values and commitments. This is helpful not only regarding your romantic relationships, but also regarding other important areas in your life. Enjoy!
About Janet McNish
Janet McNish has been a counsellor and trainer for over 16 years. She is a regular Studio Counsellor at Premier Radio, speaker at singles groups and organisations providing support around relationships. Visit www.janetmcnish.comJanet will be discussing Singleness & Dating live on Premier Christian Radio on Sunday 16th February 10.00 pm to Midnight.