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Recovering From a Fractious Childhood

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Fractious –Easily upset or annoyed or difficult to please, bad-tempered, irritable, moody, unpredictable. Causing problems and disagreement eg: A fractious mother causes a child to walk on eggshells. Never knowing where they stand creating anxiety and distress in a child… in some cases trauma.

A fractious childhood relates to Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs). On 5th March 2017, I returned as Studio Counsellor to the “Premier Tonight” Show with Presenter Michael Fanstone, to discuss this heartbreaking topic, and to provide advice for the listeners. There were so many calls, emails, and text messages, that we could only respond to about half of them by the end of the two-hour live show. I felt so sad that there wasn’t enough time, yet so much pain unaddressed in the church community. I couldn’t just leave it there! So, I decided to create a series to unpack this subject in order to share more understanding of ACEs. I will also provide some practical resources and encouragement to empower people to move towards a more fulfilling life.

Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) tend to impact people during their childhood and into adulthood. The more of these ACEs a child experiences, the greater risk for health problems in childhood – and into adulthood. Interpersonal relationships are can also be negatively impacted as the ability to trust appropriately is impaired due to the trauma. This can leave someone feeling misunderstood, lonely and isolated. In extreme cases feeling suicidal in the hope the pain will end. However, significant recovery is possible, through effective talking treatments such as counselling or group therapy, psychoeducation, prayer support and gradually participating in a healthy loving community.

As the radio show was on a Christian Radio Station, these blogs will include some biblical examples and case studies, although the principles are relevant for people of any or non-faith backgrounds – because we are all humans who started off as children.

The Bible has much to say about how children should be cared for, it also provides hope for those who have suffered.

  • Fathers, do not provoke or irritate or exasperate your children [with demands that are trivial or unreasonable or humiliating or abusive; nor by favouritism or indifference; treat them tenderly with loving kindness], so they will not lose heart and become discouraged or unmotivated [with their spirits broken]. Colossians 3:21
  • The LORD is near to the brokenhearted And saves those who are crushed in spirit. Psalm 34:18
  • He heals the brokenhearted And binds up their wounds. Psalm 147:3
PODCAST: PREMIER TONIGHT 5th March 2017: Recovering From A Fractious Childhood follows this post

 

 

 

 

 

Beyond Loneliness – WEBINAR 21st December 8.00pm GMT/ 3.00pm EST

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https://app.webinarjam.net/register/34821/0b3b5d1291

“I am lonely, yet not everybody will do. I don’t know why, some people fill the gaps and others emphasise my loneliness”
– Ana’s Nin

Most people will feel lonely at some point in their lives. It’s a deeply personal experience that in most cases will thankfully pass, but for a growing number of people of all ages, loneliness can have a significant impact on their wellbeing. This is especially magnified during the holidays.

This timely, live webinar discusses effective strategies for dealing with the pain of loneliness and isolation.

Presented by two psychologists and a registered counsellor with 55 years of combined experience of helping people transform their relationships, the webinar will highlight steps you can take to move beyond loneliness. This live discussion will include time for Questions & Answers.

Register now! https://app.webinarjam.net/register/34821/0b3b5d1291


HOSTS
Dr Isaura Gonzalez is founder and CEO of Latina Mastermind. She is dedicated to empowering Latinas by teaching them to stand in their own power as they establish affluence and influence in their respective fields. She is an expert on Diversity and Inclusion having created a work wellness program encompassing civility, disruptive behaviours, emotional intelligence and anger management.

Dr Gonzalez is a practicing Licensed Psychologist specializing in Clinical Psychology and a Board Certified Coach operating a very successful private practice in New York.
She is the Founder of Latina College Corner, Latinas In Action (LIA) and Co-Founder of Latinos Empowering Others (LEO).

Dr Gonzalez holds a Bachelor of Arts in Psychology, a double minor in French and Sociology from Villanova University, a Master of Arts in General-Experimental Psychology, an M. A. and a Psy. D. in Clinical Psychology. She was a 2013 National Hispana Leadership Institute (NHLI) Executive Leadership Program (ELP) fellow and is an alumna of the Harvard University’s Kennedy School of Government Executive Education.

Janet McNish PGDip (MBACP) Reg.
Counsellor, trainer, blogger, professional mentor, radio presenter international public speaker Janet’s professional career and personal history make her an intuitive counsellor, with particular expertise in trauma and relationships.

Janet’s professional career and personal history make her an intuitive counsellor, with particular expertise in trauma and relationships. Since earning her Postgraduate Diploma in Counselling in 1998, Janet has co-ordinated 2 mental health projects with SLAM South London And Maudsley Health Trust, and was Clinical Services Director of a Counselling Service managing a team of 20 multicultural Counsellors and Training Program. Janet has effectively counselled individuals, couples and groups for 20 years.

A regular media contributor including radio shows since 2007 where she discusses Hot Topics from a Psychological and Existential perspective. Such as BBC World Service, Premier Radio, Ruach Christian Radio, Urban Gospel Network Radio (UGN Jamz), BEN TV. Janet is an engaging speaker at has presented at conferences in London UK, South Africa and USA.

She serves as London Area Co-ordinator for the Association of Christian Counsellors (the national accrediting body providing quality counselling and pastoral care in the UK). Janet professional services are available face to face and by Skype to individuals adults and groups and organisations.

Drs Louky De Lange
Drs. De Lange studied child and adolescent psychology and health psychology. She has worked for someone who has her own practice and they did a lot of research for the Youth Care Office and the Council for Child Protection. She worked at different schools for children with learning difficulties and disruptive behaviour.

In 2008 Drs. De Lange started her own practice and has worked with both children and adults diagnosed with PTSD, depression, anxiety and panic disorders, burn-out, behaviour disorders and learning difficulties. In 2016 she started a global brand in health psychology. Her mission is to connect people to who they truly are, to their core and to focus on their talent and qualities. She focuses on clearing the limiting beliefs, old patterns and changing the mindset of people.

Spaces are limited, please don’t miss this remarkable opportunity.
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PODCAST The Real Love Show – Forgiveness

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https://www.mixcloud.com/radioshows1/the-real-love-show-29-february-2016-forgiveness/

Janet and Patricia are joined by Cindy Griffiths who openly shared her amazing story of forgiveness.

Cindy described how she is able to forgive the drunk driver who took the lives of her daughter and mother.

How her faith in God helped her through the tragedy.